By now, no doubt, your New Years resolutions are a distant memory. You’ve probably concluded that they were a bad idea anyway. Your goals, however, were probably noble and should still be considered. Most New Year’s Resolutions have to do with eating better or doing something for the environment, but let me suggest a New Year’s Resolution that should be strived for every year, and that is the issue of anger.
Some of your characteristics are driven by your personality, which means that you are inclined to a certain disposition. You may be a shy person, and never will be an extrovert. You may be very passionate about things, and will never be very apathetic. However, being an angry person is something that you can change about yourself. Anger in and of itself is no crime and no sin. The Bible even says, “Be ye angry, and sin not.” This means that you can be angry and not sin, or you can sin in your anger.
When someone sins in anger, either by acting out vocally or physically, we often say, “He lost his temper.” A temper is a balance, like tempered steel. It is controlling oneself, so that even though we have reason to be angry, we do not act on that anger in an unhealthy manner. Some, when they are angry engage in physical activity such as running. This uses the energy created by anger in a healthy way. Others when they are angry scream, letting everyone know that they are displeased. Children often react to anger with physical aggression. These are unhealthy reactions to anger, and cause someone to lose their “temper” or “control”.
The Bible says this about controlling oneself in Proverbs 25:28: “He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.” In ancient days, every city needed a wall lest an enemy attack it. When you lose control of your spirit, you allow anyone to control you and invade your life.
Proverbs 14:17 says “He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly.” Getting control of your anger will allow you to make better decisions in life and will help you retain your friends. You will be someone that people can talk to for counsel and someone who is more stable in your relationships. It is also what God your Creator wants for you, and that is worth considering how you react when you are angry.
I know that we are six weeks into the year, but it is never too late to do what God wants you to do, especially in regards to how you treat others.